Destiny is not a matter of choice, its not a thing to be waited for, its a thing to be achieved
~ William Jennings Bryan

How to stay young

HOW TO STAY YOUNG


1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay 'them'
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.. Never let the brain idle.. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.' And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge..

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

We all need to live life to its fullest each day!!

Worry about nothing, pray about everything!

The Eagles

The nest of young eagles hung on every word as the Master Eagle described his exploits. This was an important day for the eaglets. They were preparing for their first solo flight from the nest. It was the confidence builder many of them needed to fulfill their destiny.




"How far can I travel?" asked one of the eaglets.

"How far can you see?" responded the Master Eagle.

"How high can I fly?" quizzed the young eaglet.

"How far can you stretch your wings?" asked the old eagle.

"How long can I fly?" the eaglet persisted.

"How far is the horizon?" the mentor rebounded.

"How much should I dream?" asked the eaglet.

"How much can you dream?" smiled the older, wiser eagle.

"How much can I achieve?" the young eagle continued.

"How much can you believe?" the old eagle challenged.



Frustrated by the banter, the young eagle demanded, "Why don't you answer my questions?"

"I did."

"Yes. But you answered them with questions."



"I answered them the best I could."

"But you're the Master Eagle. You're supposed to know everything. If you can't answer these questions, who can?"

"You." The old wise eagle reassured.

"Me? How?" the young eagle was confused.

"No one can tell you how high to fly or how much to dream. It's different for each eagle. Only God and you know how far you'll go. No one on this earth knows your potential or what's in your heart. You alone will answer that. The only thing that limits you is the edge of your imagination."



The young eagle puzzled by this asked, "What should I do?"



"Look to the horizon, spread your wings, and fly."

Tom Reilly

Don't Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,


When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest! if you must; but don't you quit.



Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As everyone of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don't give up, though the pace seems slow;

You might succeed with another blow.



Often the goal is nearer than

It seems to a faint and faltering man,

Often the struggler has given up

When he might have captured the victor's cup.

And he learned too late, when the night slipped down,

How close he was to the golden crown.



Success is failure turned inside out;

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt;

And you never can tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems afar;

So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit;

It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.

~ Betty Mahalik

The present is perfect ...

(copy of email I received)


Perhaps one of coaching legend Thomas Leonard's most challenging and paradoxical observations is that "the present is perfect, even if you think it's not!" It's one of those provocative statements that sets off all the "yeah but" alarms in our heads:



"Yeah but I hate where I am."

"No way buster am I accepting that THIS present is perfect!"

"You're crazy!"

"How can that possibly be?"

"This is just wrong!"

Recognize any of those statements of protest? I do. Just this morning as I sat at my desk wondering what on earth I might possibly write about this week, at least some version of those swirled around in my head. But in one of those half-second pauses between protests, Thomas' provocative idea popped into my head and "Eureka!" This week's MMC had found me!



So I'm guessing that you have something happening in your life or business right now that seems less than perfect....anything BUT what you want, right? So how can it be perfect? Because perfect doesn't necessarily mean desirable or wanted or likeable. Perfect means: that which is true for us right now. It means facing that truth, accepting it, allowing it, letting go of our resistance to it, and accepting it. And that can only be done in the present.



So maybe you're in a predicament right now....

Your job

A client

A health issue

A schedule that's too full

A relationship challenge

A personal or professional loss of some kind

And what, you ask, is the perfection in any of that? The perfection is that life has given you what it has. The perfection is that the particular set of circumstances you face is serving your greater good in some way. Your job, our job is to accept its perfection even if it doesn't make sense. Like I said, it's paradoxical.



So my invitation this week is to give up the struggle. Stop resisting and start embracing. And what happens when you give up resistance and instead accept your present in all of its "anything but this" glory? Well, I can only relate my experience and that of many, many clients I've coached over the years. That is, when you let go of the struggle created by resistance, the perfection of the universe moves forward and you can begin to see new ways of changing your circumstances, growing yourself, influencing others. And whatever shows up next, remember that's perfect too...perfect for helping you learn and grow in the ways you need to.



It's like that child's toy, Chinese handcuffs, where you put your index fingers in opposite ends of a little woven straw tube. The more you resist by trying to pull your fingers out, the tighter the tube grips each finger. But the moment you stop struggling and fighting, in that moment the tube loosens and you easily remove your fingers.



Remember, the only way out is through. And the secret to getting through your present circumstances is to accept them, perfect them, embrace them moment by moment. I invite you to take a deep breath and start perfecting now, because truly, the present is perfect.



Have a "perfect" week!

Betty Mahlik

http://www.dynamic-coaching.com



"This too shall pass"

~~Hebrew saying

A few quotes ...

"Capture the heart, you've captured the person" ` Vince Lombardi (last speech before he died - The key to success speech-)


Build relationships of true Life moves pretty fast, but in the end its's all about our faith, our family, and the relationships we've formed along the way.

INORDER TO LEAD EFFECTIVELY, A PERSON MUST FIRST KNOW HOW TO LIVE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THEIR OWN LIFE, LEARN HOW TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIVES, AND , MOST IMPORTANTLY, LEAD TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE THROUGH ETHICS AND INTEGRITY. - DON SODERQUIST

FOR YOU WILDEST DREAMS TO COME TRUE YOU MUST HAVE WILD DREAMS

LEADERSHIP IS DEFINED AS "SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THE WAY, GOES THE WAY AND SHOWS THE WAY"...

"NO ONE EVER ATTAINS VERY EMINENT SUCCESS BY SIMPLY DOING WHAT IS REQUIRED; IT IS THE AMOUNT AND EXCELLENCE OF WHAT IS OVER AND ABOVE THE REQUIRED, THAT DETERMINES THE GREATNESS OF ULTIMATE DISTINCTION - CHARLES FRANCIS ADAMS

IT IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL COMPENSATIONS IN LIFE... THAT NO MAN CAN SINCERELY TRY TO HELP ANOTHER WITHOUT HELPING HIMSELF - RALPH WALDO EMERSON

THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE AREN'T THINGS
- ANTHONY D'ANGELO

FORGIVENESS DOES NOT CHANGE THE PAST, BUT IT DOES ENLARGE THE FUTURE. - PAUL BOESE

KNOWLEDGE IS LIKE CLIMBING A MOUNTAIN. THE HIGHER YOU REACH THE MORE YOU CAN SEE AND APPRECIATE - UNKOWN

THE QUALITY OF A PERSON'S LIFE IS IN DIRECT PROPORTION TO THEIR COMMITMENT TO EXCELLENCE, REGARDLESS OF THEIR CHOSEN FIELD OF ENDEAVOR. - VINCE LOMBARDI

SOMETIMES THE BEST HELPING HAND YOU CAN GET IA GOOD , FIRM PUSH. - JOANN THOMAS

JOY IS NOT IN THINGS; IT IS IN US. - RICHARD WAGNER

IF YOU DON'T STAND FOR SOMETHING, YOU'LL FALL FOR ANYTHING. - UNKOWN

CHANGE ALWAYS COMES BEARING GIFTS - PRICE PRITCHETT

KINDNESS IS THE LANGUAGE WHICH THE DEAF CAN HEAR AND THE BLIND CAN SEE - MARK TWAIN

IMAGINATION IS THE HIGHEST KITE ONE CAN FLY - LAUREN BACALL

"LIFE CAN BE COMPLICATED, BUT HAPPINESS ... IS SIMPLE."-MAC ANDERSON

“All my life I never gave up in a fight, even when five boys were whaling on me at once. And I’m not going to give up now.” —Patrick Swayze (R.I.P.)

"Life is a pure flame, and we live by an invisible sun within us." - Sir Thomas Brown


"A wise man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by his own." - Latin Proverb

"Hear the meaning within the word." - William Shakespeare

"Years teach us more than books." - Berthold Auerbach

"The way to gain a good reputation, is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear." - Socrates

"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." - Helen Keller

"What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?" - Vincent van Gogh

"Happiness resides not in posessions and not in gold; the feeling of happiness dwells in the soul." - Democritus

"After the game, the king and the pawn go into the same box." - Italian Proverb

"The best thing about me is you." - Shannon Crown




"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. And the harder I work, the luckier I get!"

"I've found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often."

~~Brian Tracy, author and motivational speaker

a few words to ponder on ...

The heart that gives,gathers ~ Marianne Moore

Change your thoughts change you world ~ Norman  Vincent Peale

Burn brightly without burning out. ~ Richard Biggs

How far ...

The nest of young eagles hung on every word as the Master Eagle described his exploits. This was an important day for the eaglets. They were preparing for their first solo flight from the nest. It was the confidence builder many of them needed to fulfill their destiny.
"How far can I travel?" asked one of the eaglets.
"How far can you see?" responded the Master Eagle.
"How high can I fly?" quizzed the young eaglet.
"How far can you stretch your wings?" asked the old eagle.
"How long can I fly?" the eaglet persisted.
"How far is the horizon?" the mentor rebounded.
"How much should I dream?" asked the eaglet.
"How much can you dream?" smiled the older, wiser eagle.
"How much can I achieve?" the young eagle continued.
"How much can you believe?" the old eagle challenged.
Frustrated by the banter, the young eagle demanded, "Why don't you answer my questions?"
"I did."
"Yes. But you answered them with questions."
"I answered them the best I could."
"But you're the Master Eagle. You're supposed to know everything. If you can't answer these questions, who can?"
"You." The old wise eagle reassured.
"Me? How?" the young eagle was confused.
"No one can tell you how high to fly or how much to dream. It's different for each eagle. Only God and you know how far you'll go. No one on this earth knows your potential or what's in your heart. You alone will answer that. The only thing that limits you is the edge of your imagination."
The young eagle puzzled by this asked, "What should I do?"
"Look to the horizon, spread your wings, and fly."

Tom Reilly

Dreams...

"The future belongs to those who believe


in the beauty of their dreams."

- Eleanor Roosevelt

Every single thing you do matters.

"Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind.  You have been created in order to make a difference.  You have within you the power to change the world." ~ Andy Andrews

Quotes...

"What is outrageous is not what you ask for. What is outrageous is what you settle for." ~~Alan Cohen
"You have to be willing to get happy about nothing." ~~Andy Warhol

"Look not mournfully at the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future without fear." ~~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"Individual faults and frailties are no excuse to give in - and no exemption to the common obligation to give of ourselves." ~~ Senator Edward Kennedy

"If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." ~~Henry David Thoreau

Saturday: "There is more to life than increasing its speed." ~~Mahatma Gandhi

"People say that what we're all seeking is the meaning of life. I think that what we're really seeking is the experience of being alive." ~~Rudyard Kipling

Thanks to Betty Mahlik for these quotes

I am certain...

There is only one thing about which I am certain, and that is that there is very little about which one can be certain.


Somerset Maugham

Can or Can’t

“Whether You Think You Can or Can’t, You’re Right.” -Henry Ford

Character ...

The best rule of friendship is to keep your heart a little softer than your head. ~ George Santayana

Character is something each one of us must build for himself, out of the laws of God, and nature, the examples of others, and  - most of all- out of the trials and errors of daily life . ~ LT. Gen. A.G. Trudeau

The need for friends is imperative.

The need for friends is imperative. It is not good for us to be friendless. We were made to give and to receive, to help and to be helped,to encourage and to be encouraged. Our nature rquires a tie to faithful others. We call it friendship ~Leroy Brownlow

Words of Friendship

The language of friendship is not words, but meanings. It is an intelligence above language. ~ Henry David Thoreau

Words of Friendship

A friend is  the gift fo God, and He only who made hearts can  unite them. ~ Southey

Faith...

Faith is not necessary when you know how things are going to work out, - that's knowledge....

It's in the time of unknowing that having faith is what sees you through to the other side. Faith is what gives you strength. Faith is that light in your heart that keeps on shining even when it's all darkness outside. Now is the time to keep that faith alive!

sisterhood...

SISTERHOOD

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go. Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break. Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors. Careers end.
BUT........ Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how
many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away
than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end. Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you...Or come in and carry you out. Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters,
daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, Granddaughters aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family, all bless our life! The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called life, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.
Pass this on to all the women who help make your life meaningful. I just did. Short and very sweet: There are more than twenty angels in this world. Ten are peacefully sleeping on clouds. Nine are playing.
And one is reading this at this moment. "You are all very special to me or I wouldn't be taking the time to send you this!"

thanks Sandy for this email

To get something you never had, you have to do...

Concentrate on this Sentence

'To get something you never had, you have to do
something you never did.' When God takes something
from your grasp, He's not punishing you, but merely
opening your hands to receive something better.
Concentrate on this sentence... 'The will of God will
never take you where the Grace of God will not protect
you.'
Thanks Dad for this message!